The issue of women’s satisfaction plays a significant role in the quality of daily life, the couple’s relationship and their well-being. For years, an unwritten law forbade talking about it, but it is undoubtedly one of the most important foundations of married life . When a problem is solved by awareness and learning , why let the ax take root in life? It’s time to put aside the old taboos and look at female orgasm more openly.
Why do women reach orgasm?
The purpose of male orgasm is quite clear; Men reach orgasm to achieve fertility and maintain a life cycle. So what is the use of satisfying women? Scientists have not yet discovered this! In the distant past, it was thought that the presence of female orgasm hormones was necessary for ovulation . Although this hypothesis was later refuted, the pleasure of reaching orgasm and the intimacy it creates caused both parties to try to satisfy the other.
We now know that satisfaction is the most important factor in determining the intensity of sexual desire , both for women and men . A woman who does not experience orgasm and is merely a means of satisfying her partner’s sexual needs will gradually lose the desire for sex and will struggle with the unpleasant consequences of dissatisfaction.
What are the benefits of satisfying women?
A simple internet search will find thousands of articles on the benefits of orgasm for skin, hair and body health that are not at all reliable. Medical science has not yet been able to confirm the health benefits of orgasm for the body, but orgasm is enjoyable and this pleasure can have positive effects on a person’s mental health . Pleasant sex improves well-being , reduces stress , secures the body, and leads to better relationships between couples.
A woman does not have to orgasm to get pregnant , but evidence shows that orgasm increases the chances of fertility. It is as if the female body holds the sperm better after being satisfied. Of course, more research is needed to confirm this hypothesis.
Misconceptions about women’s satisfaction
Some of the following may seem strange, but there are those who have such misconceptions about female orgasm.
1. Women who can not reach orgasm must have mental problems!
Of course, trauma, relationship problems, and poor nerves make orgasm difficult, but that does not necessarily mean that every dissatisfied woman has psychological problems. Even those who have a healthy sexual attitude and a good relationship with their spouse sometimes have problems in this regard. Why? Because orgasm is a physical-psychological reaction. This means that even if there is no psychological problem, physical problems can negatively affect women’s satisfaction, such as:
- Do not use lubricant;
- Taking hormonal contraceptives ;
- Menopause ;
- Vulvodynia disease.
2. Vaginal sex is enough for a woman to orgasm!
Few women reach orgasm without stimulating the rest of the genitals and only with vaginal intercourse. In addition, most women experience peak sexual arousal with clitoral stimulation. Therefore, in addition to vaginal intercourse, other sensitive parts of their body should also be considered. The nipples are full of extremely sensitive nerve fibers that can be pleasant to the touch of your partner. Stimulation of the G-spot (G-spot) with the hand or genitals sometimes causes orgasm in women alone. So get rid of this misconception and look for a new way to enjoy the relationship.
3. Men can recognize women’s satisfaction!
The signs of female satisfaction are not clear to the party. There is no way to diagnose female orgasm unless you ask yourself. Some women produce sounds during orgasm, some blush, sweat, and their heart rate rises. Some people are not like that and have a calmer orgasm. So if you really want to know, ask yourself. If the answer is no, do not deal with anger , bullying, blame and judgment under any circumstances . These behaviors result in nothing but the pressure of orgasm and sexual anxiety . Enter the conversation and ask if he knows a solution.
Why are some women not satisfied at all?
Various factors are involved in women’s satisfaction. Some do not have the desired relationship, some suffer from old traumas, and some may not be bored at that moment. Of course, there are other reasons, for example:
- Relationship problems;
- Life pressures;
- Poor physical health ;
- Genital problems such as pelvic pain, hormonal imbalance or vaginismus ;
- History of abortion ;
- History of female circumcision (from strange customs of countries such as India and Pakistan);
- Types of sexual abuse;
- Strong religious restrictions and shame of the relationship.
What factors contribute to female orgasm?
- Sports ;
- Love and intimacy between couples ;
- Sex education;
- Have a positive body image.
As a woman, you can have behaviors during sex that bring you closer to orgasm, behaviors such as:
- Use of quality lubricants;
- Ask your partner to do certain movements you like;
- Help your partner to further stimulate sensitive areas;
- Talk about fantasies with your partner;
- Sharing annoying behaviors with your spouse.
Tips to help satisfy women
You should seek individual counseling or couple therapy very quickly when psychological trauma or relationship problems make it difficult for women to be satisfied, or when your spouse feels ashamed or afraid of sex or desires . But if you think your problems are due to ignorance, try the tips in this section.
1. Do not forget to anticipate
Many times everything happens so fast that the preconception is completely forgotten. While your partner may not be as ready for a relationship as you are. He has the right to enjoy this relationship as much as you do. So if the quality of the relationship and the enjoyment of your spouse are important to you, do not forget this step. Prepare his body and mind in any way you know (if you do not know, please!) And go step by step.
2. Remind yourself that the goal is to enjoy, not to be satisfied
The goal of sex is to enjoy, and reaching orgasm is one of the shortest pleasures a man can experience, so do not shorten it to what it is. As a partner, create a space throughout the relationship that aims for intimacy and pleasure, and reaching orgasm is the end result. Take your focus from the end of the game and focus on each of the moves you make. Rest assured, the more you think about satisfaction, the less likely it is to happen.
3. Learn more about the clitoris
Most women need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. Even in 2017, a study was conducted in this field and showed that only 18% of women can reach orgasm through vaginal sex, and the rest need indirect arousal in addition to penetration. So try to pay attention to irritated areas such as the clitoris during the relationship. You can try different positions to have easier access to this area with your genitals.
4. Do what he likes
Ask yourself what he likes and dislikes. Let him take the lead in the relationship and see how much pressure and in what direction he puts it. This is exactly the power you need to have fun, so apply the same power yourself during vaginal or oral intercourse.
5. Kiss her constantly
When you go through the foreplay and sex progresses, you are less likely to pay attention to romantic kisses and your mind becomes involved in the main movements of the relationship, unaware of how deep kisses can affect women’s satisfaction. According to a 2017 study of 50,000 people, women are more likely to orgasm during sex, including a combination of deep kisses, oral sex and genital stimulation.
6. Talk to your spouse about his or her fantasies
Ask him out well if he is no longer absorbed in the connection. Ask him out well if he is no longer absorbed in the connection. Do not underestimate the power of these fantasies. The same sometimes bizarre perceptions sometimes multiply the intensity of arousal during a relationship. You do not always have to pay attention to the constraints and move within a certain framework, such a variety happens to be useful for the relationship. Satisfying your spouse while fulfilling his / her fantasies. The importance of this issue is no less, if not more, than physical stimulation. For example, if you feel the urge to try sexual tools, sometimes use them during intercourse.
7. Talk during sex
Sometimes talking when having sex works wonders to satisfy women. When it comes to defining yourself and how you feel about the intimacy of a relationship, why not do it? If he answered enthusiastically, know that he enjoys these professions and would like to hear more. Sometimes just in the middle of a relationship, wait a moment, look at him, hug him and say a romantic sentence.
8. Use lubricants
Without lubricants, sex becomes difficult and annoying for women. Sometimes, even though the woman is fully aroused, her body produces no mucus and is completely dry. In such cases, having intercourse in the hope that the vaginal walls will be wet instead of enjoyable can be painful for your partner. Even studies have shown that having sex is more enjoyable for women when it causes women to orgasm when some lubricant is used before penetration. Of course, this is not just for the pleasure of women, and these studies have shown that the use of lubricants for a long time prolongs the relationship for men.
9. Do not forget to stimulate the neck
The skin of the neck area is extremely thin and full of blood vessels close to the surface of the skin and is one of the most irritating parts of a woman’s body. Do not neglect then. To help satisfy women, push your partner closer to orgasm by kissing and touching this area as he or she approaches orgasm.
10. Ask your spouse what he or she needs
The last resort is to ask your spouse what he or she needs. What’s wrong with letting him guide you? Research has shown that couples who talk more easily about sexual issues and desires have better sex. Why? Because they have already talked about fantasies, preferences and annoying moves, they have reached an agreement and there is no more anxiety of not knowing during the relationship. Talking about sexual issues alone helps a lot in satisfying women and of course men.
You say
The more we experiment with this and use the experiences of others, the less it is; So please, if you wish, tell us what your experiences are in this field. If you are a woman, how much does your partner respect this inherent need? If you are a man, how much do you respect your spouse’s need? We look forward to hearing from you.